What to do....

[lucky]

While looking in yss's (10 yo) dresser for some nice clothing, I found a duffle bag stuffed into the bottom drawer.  I opened it up and much to my surprise was confronted with Playboy and Penthouse.  There was also a folder filled with printouts of the nastiest porno websites.  You know the ones I'm talking about I'm sure.  I used to get emails from those sites to the point that I changed my email addy.  There was also a knife and a candle in the duffle.

Since yss and oss share a room (when yss is visiting) I have to assume that the stuff is oss's (15 yo).  We don't allow porno in our home -- not movies, magazines, nothing.  In fact, we had to throw out a "collection" of mags when we moved in because dh's dad liked them and had "left" them for dh.

Currently, I have taken the printouts, mags, knife and candle and have them in my room.  Dh is not home right now to discuss this with.  I believe that oss will be using the duffle bag this evening because pbfh told him he could go over to a friend's house for the night.  Which means that he will discover them missing before I can talk to dh.

How should I handle this if oss confronts me/us before I can talk to dh?

[Kitty C.]

:-)

[lucky]

I did get to speak to dh prior to oss getting home.  We decided (since oss and I already have issues) that dh would discuss it with oss alone.

They had their chat and the story is that oss and his friend were trying to hide the stuff from the friend's little brother and so they stuck it in oss's duffle bag -- but HE doesn't want a thing to do with that "crap".  Dh and oss then burned it all.

I don't completely buy the story, but oss knows that it won't be tolerated and was warned that he'd better NEVER bring it into our home again or there will be severe consequences.

I will definitely be on my guard for adult stuff from now on.  One good thing is that the kids do not have access to the internet from home.  They aren't allowed to use my computers (they are passworded and are left off when I'm not home) and their computer has no internet access.

We'll see what happens and hope that he's telling the truth.

[Peanutsdad]

Lucky,, count your blessings its typical normal healthy curiosity about the female form.

Believe it or not,, it really is not at all unusual for kids to try access to such materials.

LOL,, I find it amusing that he has learned,, state your story and stick to it. Personally, I wouldnt get all upset about it. I WOULD however make it plain that such materials arent allowed in your home,, but my advise,, let dad handle this one.

Thanx for the laff ;)