I agree, but bm constantly expects others to pay for her games. DH begged to know about appts and she ignored him, but then had the entire bill sent to him.
A couple of years ago, she bought $200+ medical supplies for ss after his burns. Never used not one thing from that purchase on ss. So, dh refused to pay it. She got it after ss was no longer wearing the stuff....crazy. Dh even said, give me 75% and I will pay for that incase ss needs it in the future, she writes back saying she donated all of it!!
Okay, so dh is not responsible for her buying over $200 and giving it away. But, this old hag judge ordered dh to pay her!!!
Then dh does...excepts after he took custody and she owed him some money on medical, he just deducted it from the check he sent her. She writes back saying he could not do that as her mother had paid for the bandages and he needed to ask her permission not to pay her the rest...
Dh wrote back and told her that she owed her mother, not him. In fact, the court order stated that he was only responsible for things she purchased, not those that her mother purchased. Someone else always pays for her debts...her parents or dh everytime...