My husband has a son ('J') who has been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. 'J" is VERY high functioning, but has typical problems with social interaction, interpreting social cues, etc. He can also get quite fixated on certain subjects, topics or activities. He is currently 9 years old.
Grade 2 for 'J' was miserable, but Grade 3 has gone significantly better, mostly due to the efforts of his teacher. He has an IEP and does receive some special education support/monitoring from the school, but receives his education in the main classroom. All of his grades are above 80 at this point. Although he requires a 'daily contract' at school with his teacher, due to the teacher's efforts, it seems to have worked for the boy.
My husband and I don't live in the same state as his children, but have tried to keep current with 'J's" activities, long distance, as best as we can. Mom isn't too forthcoming about what goes on with 'J' - she always tells my husband that 'everything is fine'. (we hear about the discplinary notices that get sent home only from 'J' - never mom or the school). We have received documentation from the school that mom has been offered training, seminars, and in-home support, to help her manage the problems related to AS, but mom has TURNED DOWN all offers - even though the state is offering them to her for FREE!!!!.
Today, we received a letter from mom notifying us that she has been doing research on the web and that she feels that J has ADD. She and his teacher have filled out a survey, and that she has an appointment with the doctor, to review the survey and to determine if J requires medication.
My husband flipped! First of all, despite the fact that they share joint custody, mom refuses to give my husband the names, phone numbers and addresses of their doctors (we are in the process of filing a motion with the courts to correct this). Furthermore, he is finding out about this THE DAY before the appointment! He's asked mom for the name of the doctor and phone number, but she has refused.
My husband and I have been attending AS Parent support groups where we live. We are aware that ADD can be an additional problem for children with AS, but our understanding is that you can't make that kind of diagnosis without running a whole slew of tests - not just a questionnaire!!! Mom stated that she 'isn't a fan of medication', but feels that it would be best for J. My husband is flipping because he feels that medication is a last resort! Why can't she take the training and use the FREE support that is being offered as a FIRST step!!
So, our questions are as follows:
1. What tests are typically conducted for AS and ADD?
2. How dangerous could ADD medication be for J, if it isn't really necessary?
Thanks for you input