[Date]  

Thank you for your concerns regarding confidentiality during meetings with school officials. Please rest assured that I understand your position and share in your concerns.

I am certain you wish all meetings, formal or informal, to consist of an open and honest exchange between parents and teachers. Information shared at any legitimate meeting regarding the education, development, or welfare of my child should be available to both parents, as we both have an equal concern for our child’s welfare.

I believe a confidentiality agreement would negatively compromise the communication of legitimate concerns your institution may have, concerns that would necessarily require the coordinated and cooperative efforts of both parents to resolve. Certainly, I can not imagine any subject I would approach a school official about that I would not also wish to discuss with my child's [mother/father].

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In addition, since I have previously had some direct experience with false accusations flourishing in an atmosphere of secrecy or confidentiality, I am forced to refrain from participating in any process that might promote this kind of problem. My legal counsel is also instructing me at this time not to sign the Confidentiality Agreement.

Thank you again for your concern regarding our confidentiality, but I am unable at this time to enter into any agreement that might encourage the above-mentioned behavior or that might restrict the exchange of information between myself and the school or my child's [mother/father].


Sincerely,

[your name]

cc: [your attorney]
cc: [name of the Principal's superior]