The Spectrum Of Parental Alienation Syndrome (Part II)
Forensic Psychologist, Deirdre Conway Rand, PhD
AMERICAN JOURNAL OF FORENSIC PSYCHOLOGY, VOLUME 15, NUMBER 4, 1997
Benign and Positive Characteristics of Target
Parents
Studies of target parents who are falsely
accused of abuse report they tend to be less disturbed than
their accusing counterparts (19, 21-23). Blush and Ross observed
that falsely accused fathers tended to display passive or
dependent features as compared with their more histrionic
spouses (19, 21, 22). Sanders, an attorney who represents
fathers in PAS type cases, indicated that she often found
her clients to be emotionally and financially stable individuals
who, prior to the separation, functioned as the primary parent
for their children (30). When Dunne and Hedrick studied the
effectiveness of various interventions in severe PAS,
they found that better outcomes were achieved when the alienated
parent was given custody (2). The alienating parents in the
change of custody cases exhibited significant emotional
disturbance in contrast to some of the target parents who were
deemed fit and capable of establishing and maintaining a healthy
parent/child bond.
Rogers reported similar findings in her
review of cases in which certain alienating parents who made
false allegations of abuse were found to suffer from Delusional
Disorder, with the result that the father/target parents were
eventually awarded custody in several in stances (31). The fact
that target parents make good custodial parents in some cases is
demonstrated in the vignette of S and her father,
reported above. S's father was an unassuming man who worked in a
clothing store. He was convinced that his daughter could not
grow up well without him and was determined to play a positive
role in her life. When he remarried, it was to a kind, capable
woman who took a strong interest in S and who provided
invaluable support when S was 13 and the father/daughter
relationship was reestablished.
THIRD PARTIES WHO BECOME INVOLVED
Unholy Alliances and Tribal Warfare
In high conflict divorce, the social networks
of the spouses can be come incorporated into the dispute
scenario, helping to maintain, solidify or expand it, leading to
"tribal warfare"(6). With the breakdown of the
marriage, once private details of the couple's relationship
often become the subject of lengthy conversations with
sympathetic, potentially supportive others about what went wrong
and who is at fault. Hearing primarily one side of the story,
family, friends and professionals may lose their objectivity as
they try to protect someone they care about or to bolster a
parent's self esteem. Such support may be mixed, however, with
what is experienced by the distressed parent as criticism,
interference, obligations and demands which create stress above
and beyond the divorce itself.
Johnston found that women were more likely
after separation to depend economically on family members or
kin. Women were also more likely to involve these "support
people"in the parental disputes (6). Third parties entering
the dispute initially were likely to do so on behalf of the
mother. According to Johnston, the other side typically
responded by as sembling a comparable array of allies. A
stepwise progression of active and reactive coalition building
was then likely to ensue.
New Partners
The advent of a new partner in divorce may
escalate parental disputes over the child or precipitate new
ones (6). A parent who feels threatened by an ex-spouse's new
partner may initiate efforts to gain increased control of
custody and visitation. Sometimes, new partners are the
instigators and mobilizers of custody disputes, where previously
there was little overt conflict between the parents. The new
partner may be experiencing difficulties in the new marriage,
feel a need to prove themselves, or be gratifying their own
needs for domination and control. Alternatively, the new partner
may bring a more objective viewpoint regarding the degree to
which the child is being harmed by an emotional disturbance of
the parent in the other household and provide a balancing
influence.
Role of Mental Health Professionals
Mental health experts can become involved in
contested custody/visitation disputes in a variety of roles: as
evaluators, therapists, advocates, mediators, case managers,
educators and/or consultants to parents or their attorneys.
Mental health professionals may assist in identifying the needs
of the child, assessing strengths and weaknesses of the parents,
modifying the specific dynamics of parental conflict and
advising the courts. In many jurisdictions, the courts are
increasingly relying on the assistance and input of mental
health professionals. This entails rising costs for divorcing
parents who must pay for these services. Some argue that mental
health services which help to reduce the often escalating cycle
of action and reaction between the parents saves them money in
the long run by reducing litigation costs. On the other hand,
mental health services may be protracted and ineffective in high
conflict cases. Sometimes they actually cause damage to the
parties and to family relationships.
Potentially Harmful Influence of Mental Health
Professionals
Written and verbal statements by custody evaluators
can have a negative impact on disputing parents, especially when the
situation is explained in terms of what is wrong with the parents (6).
Parents are particularly vulnerable during the upheaval of the
separation. Comments by mental health professionals in this context,
especially when publicized, can escalate parents' needs to vindicate
and defend themselves from further exposure and humiliation.
Lund pointed out that therapists, especially
individual child therapists, can unwittingly become part of the
system maintaining PAS (3). This is more likely to occur
when the therapist takes statements by the aligned parent and
child at face value, lacks knowledge about PAS and avoids
contact with the target parent.
Campbell (32) discussed the pitfalls of
triangulated relationships in doing therapy with children of
divorce, citing Gardner's first book on PAS (33) in the
opening paragraph. One of the problems for therapists seeing
children of divorce is that the parent who selects the child's
therapist, who brings the child for therapy and who arranges for
payment is in a position to influence the therapist regarding
the therapist's role, the goals of treat ment, and who
participates. Therapists who are provided with incomplete,
selective data are at risk for reinforcing and endorsing the
idea that the child needs to be "saved" from the
alienated parent. A variation of the victim-villain-rescuer
triangle may then develop. Citing well known family therapist
Murray Bowen, Campbell observed, "When clients and
therapists organize their relationship around the reciprocity of
victim and savior, the identity of each demands that the other
persist in their respective role " (34; p. 479). When abuse
is alleged, advocate therapists may become so overinvolved as to
exhibit what amounts to a shared paranoid disorder with the
aligned parent and child (35).
Campbell observed that professionals can
become slowly compromised by the "us versus them
"mentality in the context of adversarial family
relationships and legal proceedings (32). As discussed in the
section to follow, an advocate therapist for an aligned parent
and child may inappropriately use the therapy sessions to
"validate "allegations of abuse against the target
parent, rather than helping the child adjust to the divorce and
maintain affection for both parents. The individual therapist
for an alienating parent may agree to recommend to the court
that the client have custody, without meeting the other parent.
Target parents may also recruit advocate therapists to their
side, as demonstrated by the father in Judge Tolbert's case
(26), which is presented below. Mental health professionals who
make custody recommendations without interviewing both parents
may be in violation of ethical standards. Where professionals
compromise themselves in high conflict cases, valuable
information about parental dynamics can often be gleaned from
analyzing the process by which this occurred.
Influence of Therapist Attitudes
The fundamental beliefs of many therapists
about the etiology of psychological problems and what constitutes appropriate treatment
can make the therapist an unwitting reinforcer of alienation. Psychotherapy is a
potent form of social influence. Campbell conducted a study which revealed that the
majority of therapists. make significantly more negative than positive inferences about
significant others in their client's lives (34). In addition, therapists frequently
assume that the client's psychological distress has its origins in an interpersonal
environment which is "disrespectful psychologically avoidant, unempathic and
punitive". These assumptions can substantially influence the course of
treatment and the client's view of their situation. Children of divorce may feel
overwhelmed by the chaos and hostility of their parents' conflicts. They may also
feel a sense of betrayal when a parent moves out and the parents are focusing more on
their conflicts with each other than on their parental responsibilities (32).
Child therapists who are predisposed to making
negative inferences about significant others in the child's life may inadvertently
reinforce a child's sense of anger and blame toward a target parent, sometimes in very
subtle, pernicious ways. Where the therapist's own view of the target/alienated
parent is negative, even if only to mild degree, the therapist's view is likely to
adversely influence the child. This provides fertile ground for the development and
reinforcement of PAS. A detailed example of such a process is presented in The
Real World of Child Interrogations which contains an analysis of multiple child
therapy sessions in a contested custody case (36). Transcripts of the sessions
illustrate the process by which the therapist helped teach the child to make abuse
allegations and reinforced the child's expressions of hatred toward the target parent - in
this case the father.
When abuse is alleged, anyone in a position of authority can act as a
"validator," including therapists, police, child protection workers, and medical
personnel (37). Validators are professionals who, when presented with allegations of
abuse, assume that abuse occurred. They see their role as validating the alleged abuse
rather than conducting an objective investigation. Validators are relatively easy to
find, especially when sought out by a parent seeking to strengthen their position in legal
proceedings.
Validator interviews of the child tend to promote the child's voicing of an abuse
scenario, whether or not abuse occurred.
Real World of Child Interrogations
Once the issue of molestation is raised, the child is often subjected to repeated
interviews and evaluations, sometimes more than 20, according to a family law judge in
California (28). An analysis of 150 tape-recorded abuse interviews with children
identified specific adult interviewer behaviors which influence children to alter accounts
and to say things that will satisfy or please the interviewer (36). Most adults are
unaware of how their ideas and expectations teach children to conform their accounts to
the expectations of the adult interviewer. When the child is brought by a parent for
an abuse interview, the parent's report of what occurred tends to shape the interviewer's
ideas about what occurred and the questions which are asked. These interviewer
expectations are communicated to the child through the adult's reactions, leading
questions and other suggestive techniques (e.g., drawings or "anatomical dolls"). Such effects occur even among professionals trained not to use suggestive
methods.
Suggestibility of Children's Recollections
There has been a growing body of research in recent years which shows the potential for
interviews to teach children what adults expect to hear. Ceci and Bruck conducted a
comprehensive historical review and synthesis of this research in an article on the
suggestibility of witnesses (38). These authors cited Gardner as raising important
questions about the ability of powerful authority figures to coach children and about
children's ability to differentiate fact from fantasy. Ceci and Bruck's review
resulted in several important scientific findings:
1) There appear to be significant age differences in suggestibility,
with preschool children more vulnerable to suggestion than either school-age children or
adults.
2) Children can be led to make false or inaccurate reports about very
crucial, personally experienced, central events.
3) Children sometimes lie when the motivational structure is tilted
toward lying.
4) The previous points notwithstanding, children, including pre
schoolers, are capable of recalling much that is forensically relevant.
Ceci and Bruck concluded that in order to know the reliability of a
child's report, the conditions surrounding the report need to be carefully evaluated,
including prior access to the child by an adult motivated to distort the child's
recollections. Distortions frequently occur as a result of relentless and potent
suggestions by adults, sometimes to the point of outright coaching.
Memory Research and its Forensic Implications
Many people subscribe to the incorrect belief that memory is somehow fixed and not
malleable. Loftus and her husband surveyed 169 people from a variety of
socioeconomic groups (39). The majority of respondents endorsed the belief that
everything we learn is permanently stored in the mind and that consciously inaccessible
details can be recovered with the use of special techniques such as hypnosis.
Psychology graduate students were particularly prone to endorse this view, although it is
disproved by three decades of research. It turns out that memory can be altered in a
myriad of ways.
The implications for law enforcement and the courts are staggering since eyewitness
testimony is heavily relied upon in these set tings. The American Psychological
Association sought to address these problems where children are concerned, publishing a
compilation of articles by psychology's leading authorities on memory entitled The
Suggestibility of Children's Recollections: Implications for Eyewitness Testimony (40).
Ceci and Loftus were among the contributors.
Parents as Interviewers
Parents who are preoccupied with suspicions of abuse by the other parent often question
their children repeatedly. Some false allegations of abuse in divorce begin with a
parent questioning the child after visitation about a rash, a bruise, or bathing at the
other parent's house. Everson described the case of a six-year-old-boy who produced
more and more elaborate accounts of abuse in response to the attention and support he
received from his mother as they discussed "his memories" of abuse each night
at bedtime (41). Initially, the child provided a consistent, plausible account of a
teenage baby-sitter fondling his genitals and anus. The baby-sitter confessed to
this. Over the course of several months, however, the child's description of what
occurred became more elaborate, bizarre, implausible, and finally impossible.
According to Everson, the child may have become confused about the source of his more
fantastic "memories" which probably grew out of the conversations with his
mother. This is sometimes referred as "source amnesia". Everson
referenced Gardner's work relating to the assessment of child sexual abuse.
When Cults Have a Role in Parental Alienation
In extreme cases, a divorced parent determined to deprive the other parent of a
relationship with the child will join a cult for the powerful help the group can provide
in alienating the child from the other parent. In an effort to recruit and control
members, cults have perfected the art of parental alienation. Cults are sometimes
involved in parental child abductions. Attorney Ford Greene, who specializes in
litigation against cults, contributed the following family law case (42).
Mr. Y was wounded and angry when the mother of his only son decided to
end their common law marriage. Mrs. Y was eager to mediate the dissolution and
offered to stipulate to joint legal custody with reasonable visitation to the
father. Mr. Y refused and took Mrs. Y to court, where the judge ordered the custody/visitation plan first suggested by the mother. Mr. Y became involved with a
quasi-religious cult. He used his visitation time to involve his 10-year-old son in
the group's activities. Under the auspices of the group, the boy was regularly
hooked up to a biofeedback device for the purpose of training him to become "emotionally disconnected" when thinking about or interacting with his mother.
The child's mental state and behavior gradually deteriorated. One day, the boy did
not return to his mother's home after school. Instead, he rode his bike ten miles
from school to the ferry, crossing the bay and riding through a bad part of town to reach
the group's headquarters where his father was waiting for him. Mother turned to the
court for assistance in getting her son back and protecting him from the father and the
group. The group tried strenuously to prevent the court from intervening, invoking
the special protections the law provides for religious beliefs. Greene, who was
representing the mother, focused on specific group practices which were physically or
psychologically detrimental to the child's best interests. He stayed away from the
legitimacy of the group's religious doctrines. After hearing the evidence, the court
found that the group's influence on the child was mentally and emotionally detrimental.
Mother was awarded sole legal and physical custody.
People tend to think of cults as large, well organized groups.
According to Singer and Lalich, however, cultic social organization can also be found in
very small groups, such as the Symbionese Liberation Army (SLA) which abducted Patricia
Hearst (43). Cults can be organized around different ideological themes such as
prosperity, health, psychotherapy, UFOs, or religion.
Regardless of size or thematic focus, cults share certain social
structures in common. The group is built around a charismatic leader who controls
the members directly, or indirectly with the help of loyal followers. Cults
routinely employ deception in recruiting, often using elaborate, cleverly conceived fronts
to conceal the true nature of their activities. New members are taken through a
progressive process of thought reform, sometimes referred to as "brainwashing". Compliance is obtained in small steps which isolate inductees from the
influence of non-members and which foster dependence on the group. The process
discourages criticism of the group's ideas and encourages inductees to replace "old" ideas and relationships with the group's ideology, which is portrayed as "new" and more advanced. Recruits are encouraged to reject the past and to
drastically reinterpret their life history. These tactics destabilize the inductee's
sense of self and increase motivation to serve the group and its leader. When the
recruit's indoctrination is complete, he or she can then be deployed as an agent of the
organization, to help expand the group's financial resources, power, and influence.
Almost anyone can be drawn into a cult under the right set of
circumstances (43). People are most vulnerable to recruitment when they are
depressed and between affiliations. Almost by definition, parents of divorce are
"between affiliations". To varying degrees, they are also likely
to experience depression at some point in the divorce process. Religious cults may
appeal to divorce parents who are seeking validation of their blamelessness and moral
superiority in the proceedings. Pastors and other church members in fundamentalist
religious cults may openly denigrate the target / alienated parent to the children,
claiming the authority of their holy book in referring to the target parent as an "adulterer", "harlot" or "whore".
In a presentation at a recent forensic conference, Bower (44) pointed
out similarities between the mechanisms by which cult leaders control their followers and
the tactics of alienating parents who form "unholy alliances" with their
children. Similar comparisons appear in Children Held Hostage (1). This
study of 700 divorce families, was reviewed in Part I. Clawar and Rivlin anchored
their research in 30 years of literature on the psychology of social influence, including indoctrination techniques variously referred to
as brainwashing, mind control, thought reform, modeling, reeducation and coercive
persuasion. Bower likened the alienating parent to the leader of a one-on-one or
small group cult, pointing out that children's dependence on parents makes them vulnerable
to this source of influence. The aligned parent and child, along with other
supporters of the alienating parent's views, come to share, a closed, impermeable belief
system, similar to the fixed ideology of an organized cult.
In normal circumstances, the power differential in parent / child
relationships helps parents to instill a sense of conscience and moral values in their
children. As children grow, the love they experienced from their parents in early
years becomes a model for treating others with courtesy and considering other people's
feelings. In more severe PAS however, the child's social and
moral development are co-opted to varying degrees by the alienating parent's agenda.
In extreme cases, children growing up in the custody of an alienating parent become "corrupted," in the sense defined by Garbarino et al. They are encouraged to
use deceit, manipulation and aggression in the service of the PAS
agenda. The SLA succeeded in "corrupting" Patricia Hearst for a
time: after she was subjected to isolation, indoctrination, terror and intimidation,
she was induced to participate in a bank robbery, a violation not only of the law itself,
but of her previous moral values. Once separated from the SLA, she was able to
resume prosocial values.
In extreme cases of cult indoctrination, members are trained to commit
suicide rather than have contact with "evil", "dangerous"
outsiders. In a parallel situation, severe PAS sometimes involves
direct or indirect encouragement by the alienating parent for the child to threaten
suicide or homicide if forced to have contact with the alienated parent. Johnston
encountered a case in which a 10-year-old boy hung himself when the court ordered that he
be placed in the custody of his alienated father (10). Two cases of attempted
homicide by the child were reported in Part I (4, 45). Both boys were in folie a
deux relationships with their disturbed mothers after the parents divorced.
One boy tried to poison his father (4), the other tried
to burn his father's house down (45). Careful evaluation and case management are
required when there is reason to suspect that the child may be a danger to self or
others. Part III, devoted to interventions in PAS, will include the
case vignette of two sisters who threatened suicide and homicide when told they would be
court ordered to see their father. Father had been the custodial parent per order of the
family court. Mother succeeded in alienating them and got custody through the
dependency court, by involving the children in false allegations of abuse. The
girls' threats were taken seriously and the family court ordered hospitalization at a
facility willing to deal with the possibility of PAS. In the
safety of a contained, closely monitored, therapeutic setting, the girls were successfully
returned to father's custody.
PAS IN THE LEGAL ARENA
Legal Recognition of PAS
An increasing number of attorneys are publishing
articles which recognize and seek to address the problem of parental alienation, variously
using the term Parental Alienation Syndrome in the title, in the text or in the
bibliography (30, 46, 47, 49, 50, 54, 55). California attorney Patrick Clancy posts
his Points and Authorities for the Admissibility of PAS Testimony on his web site.
An article by Wood opposes legal recognition of PAS (56). Family law judges have
been producing a growing body of opinions which discuss PAS by name or include findings of
parental alienation without giving it a special label (26, 46, 47, 54-57). A 1997
issue of The Judges' Journal included an article on managing visitation
interference by Turkat (57), who has been referencing Gardner's work on PAS for several
years. Judge Vernon Nakahara in Alameda County, California, spoke with author
Deirdre Rand about his opinion that judges need to be made aware of Gardner's work on
PAS. Judge Nakahara also shared his views on the role of the family law court in
dealing with PAS and other high conflict cases.
A Florida attorney was the first to write about PAS
after Gardner introduced the term in 1985. Palmer's article, published in 1988,
described PAS as a strategy some parents were using to avoid their obligation to share
parenting responsibility under Florida law (46). She discussed two legal cases,
including Schutz v. Schutz in which the judge opined: "The Court has no doubt
that the cause of the blind, brainwashed, bigoted, belligerence of the children toward the
father grew from the soil nurtured, watered and tilled by the mother. The Court is
thoroughly convinced that the mother breached every duty she owed as the custodial parent
to the noncustodial parent of instilling love, respect and feeling in the children for
their father. Worse, she slowly dripped poison into the minds of these children,
maybe even beyond the power of this Court to find the antidote" (46; pp. 361-362).
Palmer foresaw the need for early evaluation and intervention in cases of PAS and
those with that potential, in order to prevent the development of completed, intractablealienation. She recommended the use of judicial sanctions to hold alienating parents
accountable and to provide incentives for changing their behavior.
In 1991, a Canadian law journal published an article by Goldwater which
strongly supports legal recognition of PAS (47). According to
Goldwater, Gardner's 1989 book on family evaluation in child custody (48) "is
certainly required reading for the family practitioner and should be considered the source
document on the phenomenon of parental alienation syndrome...Indeed, there is a moral
failure in smugly asserting that children have 'rights' without taking into account their
evident lack of autonomy and their material and psychological vulnerability to control and
manipulation" (47; pp. 121-122). Although the title is in French, most of the
text is in English. Canadian law and case citations are discussed.
In 1993, two articles were written by attorneys; one from New Hampshire
(49) and one from South Carolina (30). These articles took a practical approach to
the special difficulties PAS cases pose to family lawyers, mental health
professionals and to the courts. Ward and Harvey are a psychologist and an attorney,
respectively (49). Their article distinguishes between "typical"
divorce and "alienation". Alienation cases are distinguished by the
nature and extent of a parent's willingness to involve the children.
According to Ward and Harvey, alienation family systems require their
own specific interventions, a point Gardner continues to emphasize. They build on
Gardner's concepts about PAS and synthesize them with Johnston's work on
the divorce impasse and high conflict families.
Sanders discussed PAS along with bad-faith
relocation and fabricated sex-abuse allegations (30). She referred to
Parental Alienation Syndrome as a disorder named by Gardner. She thought
that mental health professionals and family law judges were becoming
increasingly aware of the harmful process of parental alienation,
regardless of the terminology used. Support for this contention can be
found by perusing the programs of family law conferences in recent years.
Since at least 1994, conferences of the Association of Family and
Conciliation Courts have featured presentations on parental alienation.
Gardner's concepts regarding PAS are often referred to and his books on
PAS are listed in the bibliographies of hand outs (50-53). Gardner
himself presents at major conferences, for example, the Children's Rights
Council Conference in Washington, D.C., which is attended by mediators,
psychologists, and attorneys, who receive continuing education credits.
Continuing education credits were also available to professionals
attending the 1997 conference of the American College of Forensic
Psychology, which included a presentation on the similarities between
PAS and cults, discussed above (44).
Practicing psychology and law in Wisconsin, Waldron and
Joanis put forth the view that PAS was readily accepted not because
it was a "discovery" but because Gardner succeeded in
conceptualizing and describing a familiar, complex, perplexing problem of
divorce families which can have tragic consequences and is resistant to
change (54). The article contains a number of case citations and a
discussion of Karen "PP" v. Clyde "00. " This
case involved a mother who sought to have father's visitation supervised
because of alleged sexual abuse. Opinions of the ex-parts involved
differed as to whether or not the alleged abuse occurred. According to
Waldron and Harvey, this case is often inaccurately depicted as showing
the "dangers" of PAS. The court's opinion is often
criticized for quoting Gardner's work at length (56), as if this was the
sole basis for the court's findings. However, when Waldron and Joanis
examined the text of the court's rulings, they found that the court's
decisions were based on the evidence presented, not on Gardner's theories.
Their article is distinguished for its use of the social influence model
outlined by Clawar and Rivlin and its reference to their research.
In Florida, Walsh and Bone practice law and
psychotherapy, respectively (55). Their article on PAS,
published in June, 1997, appears to be the most recent paper on
the subject by attorneys. According to these authors, courts in
their state are not at all hesitant about making a decision
regarding PAS where the challenging parent can present credible
proof and evidence of incidents in which the other parent has
been practicing alienation and visitation interference. Four
Florida case citations are provided in support of this
assertion. These authors highlight the need to assess and
understand parental deceit and manipulation, referencing
Turkat's work on child visitation interference (57). "Make
no mistake about it. Individuals with either PAS or a
related malicious syndrome will and do lie! They are convincing
witnesses, and their manipulative skills may influence others to
follow suit" (55; p. 94).
One of the presentations (50) and three of
the articles (49, 54, 55) mentioned above were coauthored by an
attorney and a mental health professional. This may represent a
trend of increasing collaboration between legal and mental
health professionals who provide divorce related services.
Recently, psychologist Sharon Montgomery from New Jersey
discussed PAS during a panel presentation with two attorneys
(58). California psychologist Anita Lampel (7, 8) began editing
The Family LAP in 1996. The first two issues of this
newsletter for attorneys and others interested in family law and
psychology contained columns on children of divorce who are
alienated or who have rejected one parent (59).
Wood argued against the admission of
PAS testimony in the Loyola of Los Angeles Law
Review (56). She was outraged over the outcome of a
divorce/custody dispute in which Dr. Gardner testified. Father
was awarded custody after the court found that mother's
allegations of abuse against him were without merit. Wood
attacked Gardner personally as well as arguing against his
ideas. She warned that an erroneous decision based on PAS
testimony could result in a child being placed with an abusive
parent and leave the child with "no one to tell." Wood
failed to point out that allowing a child to remain in the
custody of a parent engaged in serious alienating behavior, if
such is the case, puts the child at risk for significant
psychological maltreatment, as in the case vignette of S,
above.
Judge Tolbert on PAS
An extensive opinion by Judge Tolbert,
published in the New York Law-Journal in 1990,
demonstrates the court's ability to match specific evidence with
expert testimony on PAS (26). Judge Tolbert heard
testimony on PAS by two experts, including Dr. Gardner who was
originally involved as the court-appointed custody evaluator.
The child in the dispute was a 9-year-old girl who was refusing
visitation with her father. Father retained his own
psychological expert who testified that the child's refusal to
visit was the result of severe PAS on the part of the
mother. Father's expert recommended that the father be awarded
custody, although he did not interview the mother. Dr. Gardner
testified that mother's contribution to the child's refusal to
visit constituted PAS in the mild to moderate range and
that the mother / daughter bond was basically healthy. Based on
the evidence presented, including the testimony of other
witnesses, Judge Tolbert concluded that the father's own
behavior was a significant contributing factor to the child's
refusal to visit. Father had been unreasonable and provocative
toward the child's mother and his excessive rigidity made him
insensitive to his daughter's needs. Judge Tolbert found that
the facts of the case supported Dr. Gardner's testimony and that
the mother should retain custody. He ordered the parents to
participate in family therapy aimed at addressing the problems
each of them brought to the situation. Judge Tolbert opined that
PAS is not so much an emerging area of expertise as a
phrase pioneered by Dr. Gardner, similar to the view expressed
by Sanders (30) and Waldron and Joanis (54).
Judge Nakahara on PAS and the Role of the Court in Family
Law
Judge Vernon Nakahara in Alameda County,
California, served on the family law bench for a year after many
years as a criminal court judge [Judge Nakahara provided the
material in this section by personal communication to author
Deirdre Rand in 1997]. When the assignment expired, he elected
to continue as the judge for a particularly severe case of
PAS. It had taken him several months to grasp the
complexities of the case and he was concerned that the case
would be set back if a new judge had go through the process all
over again.
Judge Nakahara learned about Gardner's
concept of PAS from the testimony of the court appointed
reunification therapist for the child in a severe PAS
case. The idea made sense to him and helped to explain some of
the divorce family problems he was seeing. Upon reading the
above quote from the judge in Shutz v. Shutz, Judge
Nakahara indicated that the description was consistent with his
experience. He observed that the alienating parent in more
severe PAS usually had significant psychological
problems. False allegations of abuse were also more likely to be
part of the equation. According to Judge Nakahara, varying
degrees of PAS were evident in most of the family law
cases he heard, similar to what Gardner (33) and Johnston (9)
report. He cautions family law judges to be aware that in
addition to the child, professionals upon whom the court relies
may also be "brainwashed" by the alienating parent.
This includes attorneys, family court services and private
counselors. The opinions of various professionals who become
involved should not be accepted as authoritative simply because
individuals designated as professionals are making them. The
opinions of professionals need to be tested and critically
evaluated by the court.
Attorneys and parents also need to be held
accountable. During his term on the family law bench, Judge
Nakahara did not allow the common family law practice of the
court relying on attorneys' representations as to what their
client / parents and other witnesses would testify to if called.
Similar to criminal cases, he insisted on live testimony so he
could test the credibility of witnesses himself. At first,
family lawyers in his courtroom were surprised that he expected
them to show substantial proof in support of their claims and of
the client's position.
They were also surprised by his readiness to
impose sanctions. Attorneys quickly learned that they needed to
be more careful about their representations in Judge Nakahara's
court room and that they would be required to back up their
claims.
According to Judge Nakahara, holding parents
accountable builds success. Relieving a parent of sanctions
builds failure and increases the likelihood that unacceptable
behavior will recur. Failure to impose sanctions when sanctions
are called for reinforces parents' disregard for court orders
and their belief that they can do as they please. When Judge
Nakahara threatened parents with sanctions, he gave them
choices. One alienating mother failed to take her child to 12 of
the 15 court ordered therapy appointments. Judge Nakahara gave
her the following choices: 1) take the child for the sessions;
2) spend a day in jail for each session missed; or 3) if mother
continued her refusal to cooperate, custody would be switched to
the father. At this point the mother decided to start bringing
the child for therapy. In another case, a parent with a pattern
of visitation interference was frequently tardy for visitation
exchanges. Judge Nakahara required the late parent to pay $ 1
for each minute past the appointed time. He also applied
sanctions for such issues as refusal to produce income and
expense information, failure to participate in court ordered
alcohol treatment and failure to attend the requisite number of
anger management classes.
When lesser sanctions failed to produce
results, Judge Nakahara did not hesitate to order that a
noncompliant parent be taken into custody. The first time he did
this on the family law bench, it created a "shock
wave" throughout the county legal system - it had been five
years since a family law judge in the county had imposed this
level of sanction. Experience taught Judge Nakahara that five
days in jail is the optimum period of time to make a significant
impression on a parent who persists in violating and resisting
court orders.
Role of Attorneys
In the advocacy role, attorneys customarily
allow the client to define the goal of the attorney's efforts,
zealously advancing the client's position. In PAS cases,
this approach may not be in the client's or the child's best
interest, especially when the attorney is representing an
alienating parent or a fully alienated child. Waldron and Joanis
observed, " The lawyer for the AP [Alienating
Parent] has a difficult role. The AP has collected
evidence and invested time and energy in his or her role and has
rectitude and certainty on his or her side, or so he or she
believes. The AP wants badly for the lawyer...to agree
with him or her. The lawyer has been hired, however, for his or
her knowledge and judgment " (54; p. 130). Waldron and
Joanis recommend that attorneys who represent such parents
should advise their clients to terminate the behavior, in the
best interest of their case. Furthermore, " When an
attorney...has been appointed to represent the interests of the
child...this attorney needs to avoid being swept up in the
seductive process of PAS and remain neutral, with a focus
on concrete evidence" (54; pp. 130-131). Sanders, who
primarily represents rejected / alienated parents, recommends
that before taking action, the attorney should determine whether
the client is the problem, interviewing collaterals, obtaining a
polygraph, or asking the client to undergo an independent
psychological evaluation if necessary (30). Similarly, Ward and
Harvey assert, " It is incumbent on the attorney to
sufficiently explore the client's motivation and the reality
basis of the client's beliefs before litigation is undertaken
" (49; p. 35).
Psychological Experts in Divorce
According to Sanders, attorneys representing
target parents in PAS cases must retain a strong
psychological expert (30). For judges unfamiliar with
PAS, the expert's role in educating the court is
essential. Otherwise, the judge will most likely make orders
which are not strong enough to remedy the problem. This is
especially true for judges who are unfamiliar with family law
cases and do not have a particular interest in that area. In
some jurisdictions in California, including Alameda County where
Judge Nakahara presides, judges are assigned to the family law
bench for a one year. Certain states, such as Colorado, do not
have a family court system. Judges in some districts can be
assigned to family law cases that they do not want, and their
motivation to read custody reports and be alert to alienation
issues may be minimal (50).
Sanders reported that when an alienated
father is seeking custody, he should have a psychological expert
who is prepared to give a strong opinion on the severity of the
problem and the improbability that individual therapy for the
mother or a restraining order against alienating behavior will
be enough to remedy the situation (30). It may be crucial to
persuade the court that the child's relationship with the target
parent cannot be re paired unless custody is removed from the
alienating parent.
Waldron and Joanis identified the danger in
PAS cases of the professionals who become involved
becoming as split and contentious as the parents (54). When
possible, they recommend that mental health professionals who
become involved work collaboratively with each other and with
the attorneys. Depending on the circumstances, it may be
possible for an expert who enters the case on the side of one
parent or the other to eventually become part of the case
management team, especially if the court orders it, as in the
case vignette of S, above.
Ackerman and Kane included a section on
PAS in the 1991 supplement to their reference work on
psychological experts in divorce and other civil actions (59).
In a subsequent edition, information about Gardner's work on
PAS was included in the body of the text (60). Attorneys
involved in difficult family law cases must be able to
critically assess the qualifications and work of mental health
professionals. Family lawyers may be expected to cooperate and
participate in the selection of a custody evaluator, case
manager, or therapist for the child. Attorneys must also be
prepared to probe the findings of mental health professionals
and to cross-examine them.
Family Law Versus Dependency Court
Decisions by the court in family law are
based on "best interest of the child," usually
interpreted to mean that children are better served when the
court makes orders which enable them to maintain a positive
relationship with both parents. There is also support for the
rights of the parents to have a relationship with their
children. The dependency system is designed to find abuse and to
protect children from parents thought to be abusing them. In
dependency or juvenile court proceedings, the state acts to
protect children who are deemed to be at risk of being harmed,
with the court assuming the role of the custodial parent. The
juvenile court has the power to order a child taken into
protective custody prior to a hearing and can terminate parental
rights. The juvenile court may take jurisdiction in a family law
matter even when the allegations of abuse have been previously
litigated in family law court and found to be invalid (61).
Some alienating parents succeed in mobilizing
the child protection system (CPS) to help sever the target
parent's contact with the child. This is what happened in the
case vignette of Mr. and Mrs. C in Part I. The case was unusual
for the fact that the alienating parent was a father. He
obtained custody of his daughter in dependency court after
failing to accomplish this goal during several years of family
law proceedings. Most of the CPS workers who became involved
rejected the idea of PAS, despite in formation from
mental health professionals who had been recognized by the
family law court or who had provided therapy to the girl and her
mother. As this case demonstrates, CPS workers tend to be less
familiar with the dynamics of high conflict divorce. They are
less likely to consider such potentially contaminating factors
as parental influence and repeated abuse interviews of the child
by police, social workers, therapists, and others. In severe
alienation, the alienating parent may move from one county or
state to another, beginning a new round of investigation into
the abuse allegations and seeking better support for terminating
the target parent's contact with the child (52).
On the other hand, when CPS workers are
receptive to the experts' diagnosis of PAS, CPS can help
contain the alienating parent's behavior, as the following case
illustrates.
Mr. H successfully alienated his 11-year-old
son and 9-year-old daughter from their mother after learning of
mother's desire to divorce. Prior to the separation, mother was
the primary parent. A court ordered custody evaluation found her
parenting ability to be average. Father and the children used
mother's new significant other as a rationale to vilify her.
The siblings played off each other and
supported each other's extreme and hysterical protestations of
hatred against their mother. The children did not see their
mother for a year. A Special Master was appointed who referred
the family to a PAS expert for treatment. When the
therapist informed the children of his intention to hold a
conjoint counseling interview with them and their mother, the
11-year-old boy became physically ill. Despite the therapist's
efforts to persuade father and children of the need for a
meeting with the mother, they refused to participate. The
Special Master ordered such a meeting and still father
refused.
Finally, the PAS therapist contacted
CPS and made a suspected child abuse report against the father
for severe psychological abuse in conjunction with his
alienating behavior. The social worker who talked to the father
and children was supportive of the therapist's concerns and
agreed to back him up. The therapist, too, met with the father.
He told Mr. H his reasons for the suspected abuse report and
informed him that CPS was prepared to intervene, possibly
removing the children from his home, if he did not turn the
PAS situation around within a few months. The therapist
gave Mr. H Gardner's book on PAS to read and told him
that he was acting in this manner with his children. When father
tried to tell the children that they had to rebuild their
relationship with their mother and begin visitation, the
children became angry and combative. Father became frightened
that he would have problems with CPS and might be dragged into
family law court by the children's mother. Mr. H worked harder
to turn the situation around. The CPS worker met with the
children twice and continued to advise father of the gravity of
CPS' concerns. Soon, the children were able to begin visitation
with their mother every other weekend. After several months,
visitation was increased to every other week with each parent.
Father needed a great deal of support to remedy the situation
and mother was in a position to help him. As a result, a
moderate degree of coparenting became possible and CPS formally
closed the case. At two year follow-up, the children were doing
well with both parents, a "win-win" solution for
everyone involved, due to the willingness of CPS to work with
the PAS expert.
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